The Freedom in Taking 100% Responsibility for Your Life
There’s a moment on every inner journey when something clicks. You realise, really realise, that no one can do anything to you.
The only thing ever shaping your experience is what’s happening inside you.
At first, that truth can feel big, even confronting. Responsibility sounds heavy, like more weight on already-tired shoulders. But here’s the secret: taking full responsibility isn’t about blame and in particular self-blame. It’s about freedom. Because when you stop waiting for the world to behave a certain way before you feel good, you get your power back and you start to allow yourself to feel good regardless of what is going on around you. You also come home to the most honest, grounded version of yourself, your authentic self the one who knows how to lead with love.
It’s All an Inside Job
So much of what we think we’re reacting to “out there” is actually coming from “in here.”
It’s our inner beliefs, the often quiet, familiar ones that filter how we see the world. The beliefs we are so used to, we have forgotten we hold them.
When something happens, we don’t experience the event itself. We experience our story about it.
Someone spills a glass of water on you and instantly, your mind fills in the blanks.
Maybe it says, They did that on purpose. Or They weren’t paying attention. Or Well, that’s refreshing on a hot day!
Same event. Completely different realities. These can change the rest of your day, or even your week, completely. Particularly if we don't notice what our mind is doing!
Every reaction comes from the vibration of the belief behind it, what we’ve come to expect, what we think we deserve, what we assume to be true about ourselves and others. When you see that, life stops being something that happens to you and becomes something you create moment by moment.
That’s when your authentic self can finally breathe again. Beneath every old belief or emotional pattern, that truer version of you has always been waiting - calm, kind, full of clarity and above all, happy!
The Turning Point
When I first realised I was completely responsible for my life, something clicked inside me, once I got over the terror of the idea that I was doing this to myself. 😀
All the energy I’d spent blaming circumstances, people, timing or myself suddenly came rushing back to me and with it came a choice.
Responsibility didn’t make my world smaller. It made it infinitely bigger.
I could choose again. I could decide what to believe, what to focus on, what to feel in every moment.
And the best thing...I didn’t have to be perfect or make the perfect choice. That is the wonder of choices...we can change them in an instant. When we see or feel where we have made a choices that is not in alignment with our soul, our authentic self we can choose again.
Because here’s the truth, you’ve always been doing the best you can with the information and awareness you had at the time. Every decision, every reaction, was your soul trying to make sense of what it knew. Self compassion is what lets us grow from there.
When you take 100% responsibility for your life with love, you naturally return to your authentic self, the part of you that doesn’t need to defend, prove, or please.
Raising Your Energy Makes Responsibility Easier
When your energy is low, everything feels like hard work, emotions feel sticky, thoughts spiral faster, and it’s easy to slip into old beliefs that say, "See? Life’s against me again" or my particular hangup, "it is all too much for me."
That’s why I love using my FRED scale - Feeling Radiant Every Day, to check in with my energy. At the very least, I do this every morning. I have my best days when I do it regularly and when I notice I’m low, I know it’s not the time to make big decisions or assume my stories are true. Instead, I shift my vibration first, move, breathe, listen to or talk Light Language or some bouncy music, go outside, do anything that reconnects me with lightness and my feelings of love.
Because from a higher frequency, responsibility stops feeling like pressure. It becomes power. And that power naturally aligns you with your authentic self, the version of you that acts, speaks, and creates from clarity and joy rather than reaction.
Awaken Your Light: A Path Back to Authentic Empowerment
This is exactly what my Awaken Your Light program is designed for, to help you raise your vibration easily, so you can think and feel from the energy of empowerment. You get daily affirmations, light language to raise your vibration and some guidance from my guides, the Circle of Light. It is quick, it is easy and it is fun! You also get to look at written channelled, energetic light language activations which are added to the video!
When you lift your energy, you step out of old reactions and come back to the essence of who you really are. You stop fighting your inner world and start leading it. You begin to live as your authentic self, not the one shaped by past beliefs, but the one guided by light, love, truth and hopefully laughter!
Each activation helps you realign with your light (regardless of which program you pick, Health, Abundance or Empowerment) the part of you that already knows how to choose peace, joy, and understanding no matter what’s happening around you.
From Reaction to Radiance
Next time something challenges you - pause.
Notice whether your response is empowering or disempowering.
Ask yourself: What would my authentic self see here? or How would I respond if I were higher on my FRED scale? Will this reaction make my day happier?
You’ll start to feel the difference immediately. Responsibility isn’t a burden. It’s the bridge back to your power, your authenticity, and your peace.
Reflective Question / Journal Prompt
Where in your life do you still react from old beliefs rather than respond from your authentic self?
What would shift if you took full responsibility for your energy in those moments?
